Hi Marco,
I'm sure others will have better thoughts on this, so please take this with a grain of salt. Jetbrains IntelliJ (and other IDEs) provide Remote Deployment options, and I would think Eclipse would offer something similar. I.e. write locally, and then push changes to the remote server with a keyboard chord. However, these types of connections require SSH or something similar.
I don't know if that's a helpful thought or not.
Best,
Bridger
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